Taking Terrible ouT of Toddler: BLAME

This message below pertains to most of my readers, since this is a blog for parents. It is a very controversial issue, so if you have a distaste for that, warning do not read further.

This saying has been plastered on Pinterest (my new addiction) and is all over the web with huge-positive response. I love Pinterest, it is a way to visualize my dreams, to organize ideas and things I want to do and try. Pinterest has a downside, there is no filter, once I put in the web page I see every Pinterest member's ideas, dreams, and stuff they want to try. Some times my morals don't jive with several other peoples and I see things I don't want to, like porn, disturbing images, and sayings that may offend me. There is no filter button but once I log in, I can choose to see only people I follow on Pinterest.
I appreciate that we are all different. Although I like to keep my freedom of choice, and if someone walked into my home with a porn image I would ask them to leave, if they did not leave I would start with some threats, and if the threats didn't work, then actions would follow. So by using Pinterest I am allowing a person to effect my home, without actually entering, and I just have no clue what they are going to whip out, as far as images. So now my choice to keep things that disturb me from floating around in my home and brain coincides with the choice to get on Pinterest. This is very upsetting.

So back to this saying, every time I see it, it crawls up my skin. Mainly because of what the words mean. It lacks understanding of the basic start of human life. It is an excuse conveying a hypocritical ideal or in other words a publicly approved attitude, that goes against the basic concept behind Gay rights activists, fighting for choice, and that if you don't like something blame something else...not yourself. Starting the blame game, comes from weak people who don't accept responsibility and don't value the right to choose. People who blame hand over their basic right to choose, point their finger at whom they handed it to and say it is their fault for taking away from them. Gay or Straight the blame game is inaccurate and only results in sadness. Sometimes the results are huge like; death/war, and loss of the rights of the people who want to keep their choices. I have the understanding that Gay people are fighting for a choice, a choice to be married to whomever they want, but this sign means it isn't about choice. This is a sign is about something else controversial, Nature vs. Nurture. Nature: how our genes predetermine our choices, vs.Nurture: How we are raised determines our choices. There was a huge section of the National Geographic on this issue, here is the link: http://ngm.nationalgeographic.com/2012/01/twins/miller-text. The saying above blames either Nature and Nurture or both. Implying that either parents bringing Gay people up are to blame for how they raised them or/and they are also to blame because they provided the Gay gene. Both ideas have not been proven right or wrong, so the sign can not be backed up by any facts. Although the sign goes against known facts like; that parents don't get to choose their own genes, nor do they choose their kids genes and even if parents raise their kid to be gay, the kid can rebel and not be gay...it works the same the other way around too, so why wouldn't this fact apply.

So back to the basic start of human life- we as humans, all have to start somewhere and it is a good thing science has discovered that a sperm and an egg make a baby. The other message I have seen is that several other creatures have Gay tendencies, or they create a baby differently, they are not humans so does it really matter? Two sperms and two eggs do not make a human baby. This basic science does not change, if all humans are Gay and never change their mind about that, human life would stop eventually. If it is a strait persons fault for having a gay child, it would also be their fault for having a disabled child. I don't think it is the the intention of the supporters of this saying, to blame strait people for having a disabled child, but they are by agreeing with this ridiculous message. Both are a part of our human life, and come from strait people. Are disabled people considered bad or wrong? I am also not sure the person behind the saying pictured above understands they are blaming strait people for human life while blaming us for their own existence of creating gay human life. Are they mad at their own creation?

So there you have a bit of Nature in that discovery that leads to the next part, genes. We all have genes and someone came up with the novel idea to check genes for traits, diseases, life expectancy and try to gather everything about a person through their genes. The problem with science giving choices to genes, is that Gay persons have genes from a strait mother and father...and the generations go on and on of strait people genes, so even if it skipped a generation or 2, eventually it would dwindle out in the genes. Some science supports the issue by saying that a person with the gay gene can choose to have sex with the opposite sex and carry the gene on. To that scientific thought, I say by mentioning the word choice the thought makes itself contrary to a no choice gene. So it makes no sense that a gene somewhere caused a trait that would lead to gayness, as that trait would have died off long ago...with the lack of human reproduction. I can't say it more clearly than this.

Alterations of genes is another scientific idea trying to be proved or disproved. What has been proven is that some genes change, it is easy to see this when it comes to cancer cells. Those cells are genetically damaged cells that reproduce another cell like it. Somehow a gene may be altered by hormones or other factors. Most gay people get really offended by this, because they don't want to think of it as a disease. Science to find facts have to look at all possibilities, whether some people get offended or not. Also if it isn't about genes, hormones play a large part in our body too, leading to our moods, behaviors, and even mental disorders...hormones also lead to other things like sex. If it isn't in genes, other bodily sources might contribute to desires difficult to control. Humans gay or strait have a wide range of desires and emotions difficult for some to control and easier for others. Whether it is difficult to control, it is still a choice to control it. If something isn't working right in our body, the happy side of that is that science may come up with a way to treat it, like some cancers. If this is proven correct, someday gay people might have treatment, but would they really want to be treated is the question? Again back to being gay people's choice.

I think the agenda behind the science is that scientific evidence will increase tolerance, I think people need to find tolerance in themselves and not look for a reason for it.

Speaking of family and genes I feel I should mention I love my family. I love them gay, strait, married, not married, living with someone, not living someone. I never even thought to base their sex life on if I accept them or not, ewe. I don't even want to know about that, let alone dwell on it. So I do have members in my family who are strait and gay and I love them, I really don't care. The only time I ever cared about someones sex life, was when it affected my choice negatively. I also don't see based on my family why a strait mother and father has 3 strait kids and 1 gay it becomes the parents fault. This is a choice! I really don't see how people believe in the message that strait people are to blame, for gay people! I choose my own sex life, why can't they choose theirs.

If you think that I am anti-gay you have me wrong. My opinion on gay or strait is that it is everyone's choice. Anyone can choose right or wrong in the matter, I don't care, and they can even choose what they think is right or wrong, or if there is any wrong to them, I don't care...it does not change the way I live and how I believe. I wouldn't want a single person, or a group like the government to say I had to by Gay, when I am strait, or even tell me whom I can love in that matter. If the government recognizes strait marriage it should fairly recognize gay marriage. It wasn't long ago they didn't accept African Americans as humans who deserved their basic human rights. If they accept gay marriage, it does not mean they accept incest, rape, and murder...all which affect an individuals right to choose. It means they recognize two individuals right to choose to marry each other. Now some would say who know me, that this is against my religion!!. Those people would be correct in that, it is against my religion to be gay, it is also against my religion to take choices from people, to be intolerant, judgmental, and un-Christ-like. Many religions hold to the basic belief that God loves all of his children, he does not condone sin, but he gave every human being the right to choose. So why would anyone who really believed in God, get the audacity to feel that it is their right to take away someones right to choose, a God given gift.

And that is my opinion on the matter.

So people who keep liking these sayings, you can like them, but I hope you understand what they are implying before you take that action. I really really hope that the world realizes that everything in quotation marks, all over the news, plastered on a billboard, or all over the internet does not make it true and/or noteworthy.

Any thoughts?

Source: http://takingterribleoutoftoddler.blogspot.com/2012/02/blame.html

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